Usually, couples who have chosen to use natural family planning (NFP) have done so because they strongly believe it's the best choice for their family. But if you know anything about fertility awareness methods of birth control, then you know that avoiding pregnancy safely and naturally requires abstinence during a woman's fertile time.
This can be a challenging exercise for some couples, and may even cause some tension in the relationship. Sex is such a simple, wonderful way to connect relationally, physically, and romantically - but when it's not available, couples are forced to get creative. This may be one reason why couples who practice periodic abstinence often report high levels of sexual and relational satisfaction!
So if you are stumped, here are ideas for 10 non-sexual ways to show affection to your spouse:
(Post originally written for the Guiding Star Project)
Abstinence. It’s a word that makes many of us cringe. It means avoiding some indulgence, not partaking in a pleasurable activity, resisting our desires. When we think of periodic sexual abstinence in marriage, we generally think of cruel deprivation. ‘Natural’ or ‘beneficial’ are not words that we associate with abstinence, but I argue that they should be. This might come as a surprise – after all, what could possibly be positive about avoiding sex with your spouse?
If you are single, the idea of learning and practicing natural family planning (NFP) may seem a bit pointless. After all, isn't family planning just something for people who are sexually active? Why should someone who is not in a relationship even worry about learning to prevent pregnancy?
In fact, being single may be the best time to learn NFP, for several reasons.
(confused about what NFP is? Read this)
Low libido can be a big barrier to intimacy in your marriage. Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and resentment can grow, causing distance between you and your spouse. You might feel annoyed with your partner, or frustrated with yourself, wondering why you don't feel the way you did when you first married.
Here a few lifestyle changes you can make to help improve your sexual desire.